I recently saw a quote on Facebook from Jill Blakeway:
“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you.”
Immediately when I read it, I thought about that particular know-it-all.
We had one specific instance where I wanted something, she knew that I wanted it, and she went out of her way to ensure that I did not get it. And this hurt. What bothered me the most was that she drug innocent people who did not know our history (of disagreements and dislike) into the fold.
This instance required a majority vote, and the vote favored the other party that this person sought out. Not only did the know-it-all seek out an alternative because she deeply felt I was not worthy, but she persuaded others to vote against me as well. This hurt even more.
The quote from Blakeway continues:
“The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.”
While I would like to think I’m over this particular situation, truth is, it still stings to think about. But I think that’s why people such as these are referred to as toxic. It takes awhile to feel relief from the symptoms.